
In our general life we always want to carry ourselves to the core of defense. I had a conversation with one of my friend about a controversy happen in the town. In this controversy the main action which I had to take, where do I want to position myself? Do I want to be on this side? Or on that side? And last thought which I think of, do I want to appear outside the controversy and above it all?
It is a matter of being honest. If your feelings and emotions at a moment place you on one or other side of a controversy, then you need to show where you stand. Because you have indicated where you stand does not mean that you are going to battle it out. You can still explore the conversation both side in a genuine attempt to understand the other point of view. Indicating where you stand at a given point of time does not mean that you want to remain there. It simply indicates the starting point of for the discussion.
Most of time when I used to argue my friends tells me that I become arrogant about my point of view. I always think like that. This is where I stand right now. I am willing to help you to convince me to shift. If both side could. I have seen many conversations at our workplace where most of us agree with the point of view which is put by a senior person. They just were nodding their head and surrender.
There is very difficult question that everyone should really ask himself in a discussion: ‘Do I really want to have my mind changed on this matter?
Only an honest answer is needed to position you among crowd.
No one can force you into that position. It is your choice. You may agree with an idea up to a point. You may agree with an idea for a section of people.
Oh yes we usually get carried away if someone has better communication skills.
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